Toxic Masculinity 一 The demonization of masculinity by the feminist movement

The term "toxic masculinity" has become a buzzword in recent years, often used to describe negative and harmful behavior exhibited by men. However, let's be real, when you hear the word "toxic," it sounds like something straight out of a horror movie. But the origins of this term can be traced back to the feminist movement, which has been critical of traditional notions of masculinity.

It is important to acknowledge that certain aspects of traditional masculinity, such as aggression and violence, can be harmful to both men and women. However, the feminist movement's critique of masculinity has led to the demonization of masculinity as a whole, rather than focusing on the aspects that may be problematic. And as a result, men everywhere have been left feeling like they have to walk on eggshells, as they risk being labeled “toxic” when they express themselves freely.

Pause and do a quick Google search for “toxic masculinity traits.” First hit in the search gives you a top 10 list that includes “being stoic” and “not being a feminist ally.” It is astounding how little reasoning and nuance were required to create such a list. Lists like that completely neglects the objective and logical aspects of the argument and makes an emotional one.

But let's not forget that masculinity is not a one-size-fits-all thing. It is a spectrum and it's okay to be on any point on that spectrum. As Jean-Paul Sartre said, "Man makes himself; he isn't found ready-made." Instead of being restricted by societal expectations, men should be urged to explore their masculinity and forge their own identities.

The feminist movement's critique of masculinity has also resulted in a lack of understanding and appreciation for the virtues of masculinity, such as strength, courage, and leadership. These qualities have been instrumental in shaping society and should be celebrated rather than demonized.

As Kierkegaard said, "The greatest danger, that of losing oneself, may pass off quietly as if it were nothing; every other loss, an arm, a leg, five dollars, a wife, etc. is bound to be noticed." Men who are compelled to reject their masculinity in order to avoid being branded as "toxic" are at risk of losing themselves as a result of the feminist movement's critique of masculinity. 

If you want to be The Man, you need to break free from external narratives like “Toxic Masculinity” and freely express the manliness within you. You may make mistakes but you can correct them. Just make sure you do not make any fatal ones. Have brothers around you who will encourage you and guide you. 

Let us not throw the baby out with the bathwater. The feminist movement's critique of masculinity has led to the demonization of the term and discouraged men from exploring and exhibiting their masculinity without fear. We should move away from the binary thinking of "toxic" and "not toxic" masculinity and instead aim to promote a healthy and positive understanding of masculinity in all its forms.